The aim of this study was to understand the relationship between BDSM and vanilla sex and self-efficacy, anxiety, and depression. This study also offers further insights into the individual constructs of the TPB and its behaviour predicting framework. The evidence demonstrates that the hypotheses were partially supported. Among the BDSM group a significant positive relationship exists between intention, attitude, perceived power, and perceived behavioural control. Perceived behavioural control was the only predictor in the intention to engage in BDSM sex. Indeed, this group reported confidence in engaging in paraphilic sex. Furthermore, there was a relationship between intention, attitudes, and perceived behavioural control among those who engaged in vanilla sex. With this group, attitude was the only variable to predict intention to engage in vanilla sex. The vanilla group in this study had an overall positive attitude towards engaging in this sex.
According to Miller (7), TPB has a direct relationship with perceived behavioural control and intention, suggesting that fantasies can influence behaviour directly. However, fantasies cannot predict behaviour, but can only be predicted by the construct of intention. This critical examination of TPB benefits the current study to establish whether perceived behavioural control would be a key predictor in TPB or not. Along with the results of this study, it confirms that that intention alone is a predictor of behaviour. However, previous research has examined the application of TPB in the context of sexual offending, so these findings would need replicating with all paraphilias and BDSM sexual behavirours. Notably, a key difference between sexual offending and BDSM behaviours is consent. Indeed, consent plays a central role in BDSM and is an important consideration in destigmatizing consensual BDSM practices (10). BDSM also offers a more nuanced understanding of sexual consent that may influence perceived power and control (23).
Attitude is a learned behaviour based on experience that is reinforced by the outcomes of that experience (1). Thus, attitudes are determined by the beliefs surrounding a particular behaviour, such as sex (1). According to this theory, repeat sexual performance such as vanilla sex results in a perceived known outcome. Iif this outcome is positive, as reported by the participants in this study, arguably, vanilla sex reinforces further vanilla sex. It could be argued that the perception of engaging in BDSM sex does not possess the stability that vanilla sex possesses in terms of performance measures. Indeed, higher levels of perceived behavioural control among those who engage in BDSM sex might reflect the perceptual confidence associated with engaging in different sexual practices and performance behaviours. However, this is speculative and further research would need to consider more closely the attitudes along with the other TPB constructs in this context. A specific example would be long-term couples where sexual routine might override other sexual prefernces, whether kinky or vanilla.
Furthermore, it was hypothesised in the present study that there would be higher levels of self-efficacy and lower levels of depression and anxiety among the BDSM group compared to the vanilla group. This was based on the findings of Wismeiier and Van Assen’s study (13). Additionally, previous work has suggested that a person’s confidence in their abilities to perform a behaviour has a direct influence on that behaviour (2) and that their sense of perceived behavioural control is thought to reflect both past experiences as well as anticipated obstacles (1, 3). In addition, sexual function is associated with a higher understanding of sexual self-efficacy and perceived behavioural control and self-efficacy are also linked (1). Therefore, the non-significant outcomes for self-efficacy, depression, and anxiety between these groups was not anticipated. Nevertheless, there are both limited and inconsistent study outcomes in terms of the role that sexual efficacy plays in sexual functioning (24).
Whilst self-efficacy and perceived behavioural control are conceptually similar, they are measured as separate constructs (25). Since the TPB is a constructed, non-standardised questionnaire, it is inevitable that variation will exist in the reliability and validity of the assessment tools used (25). Therefore, it could be necessary to distinguish between perceived behavioural control and self-efficacy (26). One such study found that perceived behavioural control was better predicted by self-efficacy than by intentions, and that intentions were more associated with self-efficacy than attitudes, perceived behavioural control, or subjective norms (26). Perhaps a larger sample size in the current study might have yielded different outcomes.
When looking at the relationship between mental illness and sexual behaviour, our findings are contrary to Wismeijer and Van Assen’s study (13), where BDSM practitioners were less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to new experiences, less sensitive to rejection, and had higher levels of subjective wellbeing. However, our findings are comparable to both Richters et al’s., (27) and Cross and Matheson’s, (28) research in that no differences between levels of depression, anxiety, or subjective happiness among those who engaged in sadomasochism or vanilla sex could be found. This may have been due to participants in these studies engaging in sadomasochism only rather than a diverse array of sexual behaviours included in Wismeiier and Van Assen’s, study (13). Also, it is worth noting that the sample size (n = 902 BDSM and n = 434 control) was significantly larger in Wismeijer and Van Assen’s (2013) research (13), suggestive of a more representative sample.
For most practitioners, BDSM is not a pathological symptom of past experiences or of difficulty engaging in conventional vanilla sex (27). Further, sadomasochists were examined and found not to have any mental health differences (28). So far, studies have been based in the Netherlands, the US, and Australia and a greater understanding of cultural differences may strengthen these findings. Previous research has suggested that partaking in BDSM is associated with higher vulnerability to abuse (29), being psychologically damaged, and even considered dangerous (27, 30). This interpretation stems from the psychopathology dispute of the 19th Century (31, 32), which remains predominant in some frameworks. BDSM is pathologized in the DSM-5 (9) considering sexual sadism/masochism as paraphilias and paraphilic disorders if they cause distress or impairment to the individual. The DSM-5 further states that many paraphilia have been identified and named and that almost any of them could, by their negative consequences, result in paraphilic disorder (9). Ultimately, linking all paraphilic behaviours to a disorder dismisses any of the benefits and pleasure garnered by those engaging in these behaviours. This limits current appreciation for developing sexual wellbeing interventions based on the benefits of different sexual behaviours.
Findings associated with wellbeing and subjective happiness for both BDSM and vanilla groups remain inconclusive. Nevertheless, our findings do highlight that kinky sexual behaviour does not necessarily always result in distress or impairment, as the DSM-5 suggests. The DSM-5 can be further critiqued as it can encourage medical and mental health professionals to misdiagnose paraphilic disorders. The implications of discovering a paraphilia and diagnosing a paraphilic disorder are vital to de-pathologizing consensual alternative sex. Debately, consensual paraphilic sex is as close to a mental health disorder as vanilla sex is to rape. Separating behaviours from disorders is the first step in depathologizing consensual paraphilic behaviour. Another necessary factor is to define exactly what constitutes clinically significant distress, which is a diagnostic criteria in the DSM-5 (33). Lastly, the pathologizing of alternative sexual practices has discouraged individuals from seeking treatment for unrelated mental health problems (33).
This study has limitations. Owing to the small sample size within the BDSM group, it can be problematic drawing comparisons between groups. This study also grouped vanilla sex, which is arguably a diverse term covering different sexual practices. This also warrants a more detailed analysis when understanding wellbeing and planned sexual behaviour. Indeed, including a wider range of BDSM and kink behaviours, on bipolar scales, for example, from foot fetish to coprophilia and vanilla behaviours, would be of interest. This drastic difference would give deeper insight into the levels of anxiety and depression, whether levels differed throughout all “paraphilic” tendencies; as well as further investigating changes in the individual constructs of TPB (1). Since engagement in BDSM may involve factors such as mood and past experiences (34, 35), these constructs should be observed through additional questionnaires. Abel et al., (1) suggests that the engagement in just one paraphilia is rare and that individuals will partake in multiple paraphilias of interest, which is referred to as multiplex. Research by Abel et al., (1) examined paraphilias offering a valuable insight into interpreting the results of the current research. Voyeurs and fetishists disclose a history of paraphilic interests in different types of paraphilia. Sadists and masochists also had experiences in other categories of paraphilia. Therefore, if individuals rarely partake in just one paraphilia, future study should examine multiplex paraphilia rather than singular (36). Additionally, further research might wish to examine the difference between gender, culture, and ethnicity, specifically whether TPB constructs and severe mental illness vary among those engaging in multiple paraphilia and varying vanilla sexual practices (37). Finally, self-report questionnaires can be biassed, as participants are more likely to report experiences which are considered socially acceptable and correlation analysis cannot prove causality (38).