The result of the analysis is presented as a journey, first describing how CSOs met the CRAFT intervention, how they experienced the intervention, what they felt they gained by the intervention, and, lastly, how the CSO experienced that it affected their life after the intervention.
“Entering the CRAFT-program”
Firstly, several of the CSOs were very enthusiastic about CRAFT when they first heard and gained knowledge about it. One of the CSOs explained how she responded when she heard about CRAFT from a friend:
So, I contact the treatment center right away and was completely hooked on it because I was out of my depth, I couldn't find any tools at all to do something. And if I could do something, both for you who are involved with this project here and also for myself, well it was a complete win-win after all. So, I had no doubt that it was something for me.
(11, wife, cohabitant, individual)
Entering the treatment center was transgressive for some of the CSOs and a positive experience since they felt very well received in both the center and when they started on the CRAFT intervention. The CSOs described how they felt comfortable around the treatment providers, which were very important for them. They felt they were met without any prejudice and taboo. For several of the CSOs, it was the first time they ever talked to anyone else about their IP’s alcohol problems; hence just describing their situation out loud felt like a relief. Moreover, they explained how pleasant it was to be met by a person who took their worries seriously, validated their hunches about the alcohol problems, and made them hold on to these feelings.
CSOs in all three intervention groups also mentioned how they realized that they were not alone in their situation. This, in particular, meant a lot, as they had often felt very lonely, as one of the CSOs explained:
9: “But, but they have, perhaps, been good at sharing, the fact that I am not the only one with this issue”
I: Could you try to describe what this means; how has it been having this feeling of standing alone?
9: It’s, it's hard to hang in there all the time, though, and, and, and. You just want to confirm that it's okay. It's okay to, uh, that you, uh, sometimes want to pack it all. And to say F*ck you. This feeling is okay to have too. The feeling of constantly wanting to feel normal.
(9, girlfriend, not cohabitant, self-delivered)
Some of the CSOs had told IP beforehand that they would seek help, but not all the participants had told their IP about entering the CRAFT-intervention. One CSO explained how participating in CRAFT was “her thing”:
“Well I did not tell my husband that I have participated in this. I have not needed to, really”.
(11, wife, cohabitant, individual)
The CRAFT components
The CRAFT-program comprises eight components. In the interviews, the CSOs referred to these components as tools and stated that it was great to receive such new utensils, though they felt that some were more relevant than others. The most valued CRAFT component was “Communication training.” Almost all the CSOs stated how helpful the communication-training was. By learning to communicate clearer and more precise, training through role-play with the therapist before communicating with the IP, and learning how to communicate with the IP, they experienced remarkable improvements in their communication with the IP. One of the CSOs explained how she felt communication with the IP change:
"But then to learn how to speak up also concerning the fact that I, just … when I had to communicate some things to my husband, he just experienced me sitting there beating around the bush, and explain wawawa, and in the end we just got each other wrong because that, it was unbearable to listen to, well. So, so there I kind of found out of the fact that it just pays off in this context to be very precise in voicing what I want”.
(5, wife, cohabitant, individual).
Moreover, the CSOs found that they became able to stay calmer and stay on their own “lane half” when communicating. The effort they laid in the communication training lead to less confrontation, and one CSO noticed how her husband began to take note of the things she said when her communication got clearer. Other CSOs realized that it became easier to talk about difficult subjects and problems. Some CSOs mentioned how they found that their IP got more open when the CSO themselves changed communication into a more positive style. It also became clear to the CSOs that it was challenging to communicate when their IPs were drunk and how they could not persuade them to stop drinking when a drinking session had begun.
Another CRAFT element made a particularly big impression on the CSOs, namely the “Positive Reinforcement Training.” The rationale behind the strategy of making a sober life more attractive than life when drinking was realized by some of the CSOs before entering the CRAFT intervention, but it was a kind of revelation for others. One CSO explained how she realized that she had previously dissociated herself from her stepson and how she now practiced giving him more positive attention when he was sober:
“So, I have practiced being present for him and paying attention to what interests him. And he is talented in many ways, and many things work for him. And by creating distance, I achieve nothing at all”.
(6, stepmom, not cohabitant, group)
Other CSOs realized that, for a long time, they had almost entirely had focus on the negative aspects of their life together with the IP. Most found that by focusing on the positive things and praise them, they could increasingly also value and embrace the more positive sides of their IP. A few, however, found it to be difficult to affirm the positive sides and sober actions of her husband when he had also caused his family so much harm and sorrow. Another CSO described how her boyfriend was taken aback when she began to praise his sober sides.
The CRAFT-component "Focusing on own life quality" was also emphasized and found helpful by the CSOs. The focus on the CSO's own quality of life was surprising to some of the CSOs. Still, most explained how they became better at prioritizing themselves and doing something for themselves due to the intervention. One CSO explained how she realized that it was important to her to be loaded with positive things:
“… This…having the energy to think about, what can you do that’s good for yourself. So, you can get filled up with some energy, and also be better empowered to stand up to him, if you can say it that way. I've probably been too bad at doing that”.
(11, wife, cohabitant, individual)
The CRAFT-component “Negative consequences” was also explored during the interview with the CSOs. Most had found that allowing natural negative consequences of the drinking to happen made a huge impression on their IP, for instance no longer being able to see their children or grandchildren when drinking. Several of the CSOs had begun to simply withdraw from their IP when he was drinking, and a CSO explained how she began to communicate clearer to the IP, how unpleasant he was to be together with when drinking:
11: Yes and of course change my behavior and make it clear to him. When was he nice to be with and when was he not nice to be around. And pick or reject him.
I: Can you try to explain how you did that?
11: Well, it was to put into words, not just leave when he came home or came in and was under the influence, but also to explain why I left
(11, wife, cohabitant, individual).
However, not all CSOs found it easy to make use of natural negative consequences of drinking, in particular, consequences that affected their common home. As one of the CSOs noted, she had to be able to live in the home as well.
The CRAFT component “Function analysis” was overall found to be very helpful and contributed with a better sense and understanding of the drinking situation, and, thus, help to give the CSOs a kind of map describing when it was possible to intervene. One CSO, though, did not find it helpful at all.
The CRAFT-intervention
How the CRAFT-intervention was delivered was also addressed in the interviews. Overall, the five CSOs who received “Individual CRAFT sessions” were satisfied with the intervention. They appreciated that the program was flexible and met their needs. One CSO did not feel that there was enough time to work through all her problems and feelings, and some CSOs would have liked to discuss issues with other CSOs in similar situations.
The four CSOs who received CRAFT in group sessions were overall satisfied, but one CSO would have preferred individual sessions of CRAFT because she needed more focus on her own situation. Still, they also mentioned that they would have wished for more group members (her group consisted of only a few members). The CSOs who had received CRAFT in group sessions appreciated conversing with and seeing CSOs, who suffered from the same kind of problem since this left them with feeling less alone with their challenges. It also contributed to a more varied picture of alcohol problems. The participants found the open-group format advantageous since there was no waiting time before being allocated to the group and because the group thus got even more diverse. Several of the CSOs experienced that other CSOs were way worse off than themselves and that put their own experiences in perspective, as one CSO explained:
“I felt better about myself, the days when the other one was with me. Because I could hear that she was much worse off than me. I could go home and think wow, okay it might not be so bad here at home.
(3, girlfriend, cohabitant, group)
Some CSOs found it easier to help solve the other group members' problems in the sessions than propose solutions to their own problems. When entering the group, some of the CSOs were anxious to meet somebody familiar in the group. Simultaneously, the CSOs had taken firm decisions about being honest about their situation, for once. One CSO explains:
“It was my experience that what is said here stays in this room. And if I am not honest in this room…. And I can totally trust that the people who hear this, of course they are also bound by confidentiality, which was mutual regarding the woman who sat opposite me”.
(6, stepmom, not cohabitant, individual,)
Two of the CSOs participating in the present study received the written material as the only source of information and help. Both expressed that the written material was helpful and supportive:
“I have that book next to my bed and um. I read it often. Probably it is also, both to get the advice from it. And just like being confirmed in that what I do is actually good enough, or it is fine enough. In that way, I think it is really great”.
(9, girlfriend, not cohabitant, self-delivered)
The CSOs felt a positive change very quickly after reading the book:
“Well, I think it happened pretty quickly. Because it read it immediately after I got it. Eh. It didn’t take me long. And that’s where I started, just like – to be able to see things and do things”.
(7, ex-girlfriend, not cohabitant, delivered)
“Well again, to get to know myself and know and find out what I am willing to be a part of and what I cannot. And also, how I can best help. Um. I think that has actually been good. Because a lot of changes have happened since”.
(9, girlfriend, not cohabitant, delivered)
However, the CSOs who only received the self-delivered CRAFT did feel somewhat left alone and missed more personal contact with the treatment provider or other CSOs. They considered that they would have improved faster if they had had a more personal connection. Despite this, no CSOs returned to the treatment centers after three months to receive additional individual support.
The written material on CRAFT
There was a common satisfaction with the written material on CRAFT which all found very readable and understandable. The CSOs explained how they felt met and affirmed when reading the material. They felt validated in their assumptions of the IP drinking too much, and they felt confirmed in doing the right things when they started using CRAFT. Several CSOs described how they felt recognized in the material, and one CSO said that she could have been the one writing the material. The CSOs felt it was beneficial to read the written material before participating in the sessions as a kind of preparation. Others also used the material to brush up on the components after sessions.
The Research Interviews
Since the participants participated in a research study on how to deliver a CRAFT intervention best, the participants had completed self-reported questionnaires at baseline, after three months (end of intervention), and again at six months follow-up. During the interviews for the present study, several of the participants brought up the questionnaires as s theme in spite that this was not a part of the interview guide. The participants expressed how filling out the questionnaires had reminded them and help them focus during the process. Moreover, they felt that the questionnaires helped them summing up of the intervention and they felt confirmed in doing the right things, as one explained:
“But I also think that, subsequently, the questionnaires I have been given, they helped me to hold on to that it was not a just a course I have attended, but it has actually continued. I have actually thought so. And that is also why I say yes to this (interview red.), because it is not just a course and so it is. After all, it's something for life for sure. It (alcohol red.) is a part of our family”.
(6, stepmom, not cohabitant, group)
Especially the two CSOs from the self-delivered CRAFT talked about the questionnaires as if these had been part of the intervention:
“Well, the questions did mean that you were, like, confirmed in some things. And, and it was not wrong to write, well, no one else would know what I was doing, at all. Nobody would know about it, right? So, I could just write what I wanted to write”.
(7, ex-girlfriend, not cohabitant, self-delivered)
What was gained from the CRAFT intervention, how did it work?
The CSOs had very different experiences on how quickly they could make use of the strategies and components learned from CRAFT, and what they felt worked. One CSO experienced an immediate relief already when stepping into the treatment center and openly described her situation with the treatment provider. Another CSO also noticed immediate changes, because she found the components of CRAFT highly useable, in addition to the support received from the treatment provider. One of the CSOs, who had received self-delivered CRAFT, also described an immediate change after reading the written material, because it helped her improve how the communication with her IP. It took her somewhat longer to master the rest of the CRAFT components. Other CSOs described how it took a few months before they experienced a positive change in their lives. One even described how, after one year, she kept improving. Learning the strategy of focusing on the positive aspects rather than the negative was described as new and helpful. A few CSOs were tempted to give up during the early stages of the intervention due to a deep feeling of hopelessness but began to improve after a few months. Thus, the path of improvement varied among the participants.
A particular benefit from the CRAFT intervention, stressed by the CSOs, was becoming better at withdrawing from the IP. When the CSOs got a better understanding of why the IP behaved like he did, and got an understanding of how the alcohol use disorder functioned, it became easier for them both to see things from the IP’s perspective, and how it differed from their own. For many of the CSOs it was really an eyeopener or a wake-up call to find out what alcohol did to the drinking IP. One of the CSOs explained:
“Yes, that understanding of him, so also the fact that, well I also think it was a revelation, I can remember the one with the scale model and how to find out, well what it is that really motivates him to drink, what is it that motivates him not to drink, so it was also like that and where I just actually hurt inside, because it is like it is, that there is just not very much that motivated him not to drink during that time. So, I can easily see the mechanism, hmm that is part of him and that understanding and see it from his perspective, hmm, it was also pretty good to have, I think”.
(4, ex-girlfriend, not cohabitant, individual)
Getting this understanding of the alcohol use disorder helped the CSOs realize that the IP did not drink because of them, and it was not their fault that they begin drinking (again). This distinction between themselves, the IP, and the alcohol use disorder also made the CSOs become more independent individuals. It became easier for them to distance the drinking behavior and make decisions for themselves. Several CSOs described how it became easier to draw a line or make demands on what was expected in the relationship. One CSO explained how she began to take control:
"Well, I feel that it is like, it has, at least, been an eye opener that was about uh, you cannot control that, my friend. You cannot control me. I am the one who decides what I do”.
(5, wife, cohabitant, individual)
Some of the CSOs experienced that their efforts with CRAFT lead to changes in the IP’s drinking pattern. Hence, they observed that their time together became better and the desire for him increased when he did not drink.
What was the perceived outcome of the CRAFT intervention?
It seemed like the CSOs got different outcomes of participating in CRAFT depending on their role as a CSO (wife, girlfriend, stepmom) differed, and the format for the CRAFT intervention differed. Some of the CSOs were able to use the CRAFT strategies to motivate their IP for treatment, improve on their quality of life, the relationship with the IP independently of whether he entered treatment or not. Four of the CSOs participating in the present study described a positive outcome of CRAFT despite that they had also realized that their loved one probably would never quit drinking.
Another group of CSOs decided to leave their drinking husband or boyfriend, either immediately before or after the CRAFT intervention. Even though their relationship with the IP came to an end, they felt they achieved a higher satisfaction with life, and that the relationship with their ex-husband or boyfriend was improved due to the CRAFT intervention, as one explains:
“So, I think I already had, I have some good tools for how, even when we were apart, how… well I think it actually ended up fine and we have always been able to cooperate, also with our son, it has been very constructive”.
(4, ex-girlfriend, not cohabitant, individual)
Overall, almost all participants stated the CRAFT intervention as helpful:
It has been a gift to receive CRAFT (2)
There is an intention with CRAFT (5)
CRAFT made me arrive at where I am today (7)
So, I got surplus energy. So, it has helped (10)
Suggested improvements of the CRAFT intervention
Several of the CSOs suggested a kind of follow-up session with a treatment provider after four months following the intervention and considered that it should be either face to face performed as a telephone/video call. It was suggested that such follow-up or after-care session would prevent a feeling of being left alone; helpful when addressing new challenges that have emerged which would be nice to discuss, but also helpful to simply be confirmed in doing the right things. The CSOs who had younger children would have appreciated more focus on how to best support the children in their families. One CSOs felt that the program was too focused on getting the IP into treatment which she already had realized was not a possibility.
Model on the CRAFT components
Based on the analysis of the interviews above, we created a tentative model of how the different CRAFT strategies and components may function regarding treatment-seeking of the IP and increasing the quality of life for the CSO. Elements such as “Domestic violence precaution” were not mentioned during the interviews despite that this element was always part of the CRAFT intervention and stressed in the written material. The present group of CSOs was not facing violent behavior, and this strategy is thus not included in the figure. “Motivational strategies” were neither directly addressed during the interviews as a theme, probably since the motivational methods instead are encompassed in the therapist style and initial session introducing the CSO to the intervention. They are essential for goal clarification in relation to the needs of the CSOs and to clarify what the CSO can expect from the intervention.
The “Functional analysis” was only referred to by a few participants and described as creating an overview useful in applying other CRAFT strategies. “Life-quality,” “Positive reinforcement,” and “Negative consequences” were appropriate strategies for the CSOs, and their experience was that some of them were easy to implement and worked immediately, where others were more complicated to use and harder to learn as “Positive Reinforcement.”