Participant characteristics
The demographic and cancer characteristics of survey and interview participants are presented in Tables 1 and 2. Most participants were in the young adult age group (mean age 29.4 surveys, 32.4 interviews), lived in Australia (62.1% surveys, 78.9% interviews) and were Caucasian (71.3% surveys, 76.5% interviews). Considerable diversity was present in participants’ gender and sexual identities, regionality (Table 1) and cancer diagnoses (Table 2).
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Of the 68 AYAs who completed the K10, 12 (17.6%) reported low distress; 13 (19.1%) reported moderate distress; 17 (25.0%) reported high distress; and 26 (38.2%) reported very high distress.
The quantitative and qualitative findings related to minority stress, impact of cancer, experiences of cancer care and social support are integrated below, with the themes and sub-themes summarised in Table 3.
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1 Identities in flux
1.1 Cancer disrupts developing identities and involvement with LGBTQI communities
For many participants, cancer diagnosis and treatment were reported to have delayed or disrupted establishment of LGBTQI identities, impacting upon relationships and connections with LGBTQI communities and peers. Most participants agreed with the survey item “cancer impacted how I feel about being LGBTQI” (n=52, 57.8%). Disruption of identity was more common for those who are newly exploring these aspects of themselves. Some participants reported that they were “still trying to figure everything out” and that “LGBTQI issues” had to be “put on the backburner”, due to having to “acutely survive this [cancer]” (Carter, 20, cis man, gay, leukaemia). Cancer was positioned as having “messed up” exploration of queer sexual relationships, a time when Brianna “didn’t know for sure” who she was (26, cis woman, queer, lymphoma). Others described establishing their identities post-cancer, telling us “when I was first diagnosed with cancer, I was didn't know I was non-binary” (Alex, 35, non-binary, gay, testicular) and “I've had strong feelings of regret that I didn't live as myself sooner and medically transition sooner” (survey, 32, non-binary, pansexual, testicular).
Persisting cancer-related ill health and reduced mobility prevented many participants from engaging in the socialization necessary to build relationships in LGBTQI communities, disrupting relational identities and belonging. Almost all AYAs reported physical (n=65, 97.0%) and/or sexual (n=43, 71.7%) concerns since cancer. Participants positioned these concerns as disqualifying or prohibiting them from engaging with young queer communities “based around nightlife” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia), and perceived to center around “going out clubbing, drinking or having sex” (Aaron, 32, cis man, gay, colorectal). Body image and sexual concerns led some cis gay men to feel “at odds with” the gay community (survey, 32, cis man, gay, colorectal) because it was “image conscious”, and expressed resentment towards the perceived “commercialist” (Oscar, 27, cis man, gay, lymphoma) and “transient” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia) nature of relationships. The physical inaccessibility of gay community spaces contributed to “struggles to find yourself in the gay community” (Aaron, 32, cis man, gay, colorectal). One survey respondent wrote,
I feel that my ability to explore my sexuality has been so severely impacted by my cancer treatment […] So much of queer sexuality and identity formation happens in nightclubs, bars, parties, events with alcohol and drugs – all spaces that I find difficult or impossible to access (survey, 26, cis woman, queer, sarcoma).
A survey respondent told us, “pain post surgery is horrendous, even 8 years later. I can't go out and be a part of the community. Let's face it, the queer community isn't overly disability friendly” (survey, 38, cis woman, lesbian, cervical). In this vein, over half of the participants agreed with the survey item “cancer impacted my involvement with LGBTQI communities” (n=59, 65.6%).
Post-cancer changes in gendered embodiment, feelings of sexual attraction and sexuality also impacted upon LGBTQI identities. For example, one participant described reductions in her sexual desire as making her feel “more ‘straight’” and “extra asexual” (survey, 26, cis woman, queer, lymphoma), while another AYA woman who said “sex is painful and unpleasant” following cancer treatment, described having to “readjust what being queer means to me if I can’t have sex with women” (survey, 37, cis woman, queer, cervical). Some transgender AYAs noted that cancer treatment could have consequences for embodied gender – including “having a completely different body part to have body dysmorphia about” (survey, 37, non-binary and gender fluid, queer, BRCA) after removal of reproductive organs.
Having a radical cystectomy and removing parts of the female reproductive system has probably been challenging my feelings towards being more non-binary, which is a whole other confusing case. So that's an area that I'm still coming to terms with. (Luca, 33, non-binary, queer, bladder)
The consequence for many AYAs was that cancer diagnosis and treatment could leave them worried about having to “catch up to other [LGBTQI] people my age” (survey, 28, cis man, gay, sarcoma).
1.2 Internalized prejudice impacts identities
AYAs still coming to terms with being LGBTQI may struggle with internalized prejudice. While the majority of AYA survey respondents agreed with the item “I am comfortable being LGBTQI” (n=73, 80.2%), twelve (13.3%) agreed with the item “I wish I was not LGBTQI”. This was linked to broader issues of LGBTQI invisibility and societal discrimination and rejection, particularly for those who grew up in times or places where there was little LGBTQI representation or “where [trans] terms didn’t exist” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia). Almost all respondents (n=82, 91.1%) had experienced discrimination in their lives. Dylan described how family prejudice and internalized “gay shame” meant they “grew up really distant from the queer community, and almost scared to be involved in it”, which continued into their early treatment experiences. A survey respondent felt that their “othering” from peers after their cancer diagnosis had caused them to reject their LGBTQI identity, as they “couldn't bear to have something else that made me different again” (survey, 25, cis woman, queer, sarcoma). Many AYAs were cautious about disclosing LGBTQI status to family and peers. For example, Luca (33, non-binary, queer, bladder) reported that they were “still figuring it out for myself, that’s why I’m not necessarily discussing it with others yet”. A non-binary intersex survey participant told us “there is so much internalized shame tied into the experience of being intersex, it's hard to disclose” (survey, 23, non-binary, bisexual, intersex, medical intervention). This was reflected in survey responses: while all respondents were out to at least some people in their general life, almost half (n=38, 42.7%) agreed with the survey item “I keep careful control over who knows I am LGBTQI” and only thirteen (15.7%) were out to all family, friends and peers.
1.3 Cancer facilitates identities and embodiment
It is important to note that cancer and its treatment were not universally disruptive to LGBTQI identities and relationships. Three-quarters of respondents (n=67, 74.4%) agreed with the survey item “cancer impacted how open I am about being LGBTQI”. AYAs described having “more courage” (Cara, 29, cis woman, gay, melanoma) to introduce partners to friends and family, “embracing] the queer side [of myself]” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia) as a form of authentic self-expression and to promote LGBTQI inclusivity. As one survey respondent wrote, “having this cancer made me realise I will never be put in the closet again” (survey, 29, trans woman, pansexual, brain). Sexual intimacy could also be improved after cancer. Removal of breasts was described by a non-binary intersex participant as “a gamechanger when it comes to sex. Dysphoria no longer clouds the room like it used to” (survey, 22, genderqueer man, gay, intersex, medical intervention). Others reported increased ownership of their “kink” desires.
I’m a lot more sexually open now than what I was before. You know, like all my hard kinks and stuff I never really owned before having cancer. I sort of felt like I was a bit of a freak, never embraced it. But once I met [partner’s name] post cancer, [I thought] life is short, own it do what you want. Do what makes you happy. (Jake, 30, cis man, gay, testicular)
At the same time, “queer communities” were described as “more accepting” of cancer-related changes because of “understand[ing] that bodies are diverse” (survey, 34, cis women, queer, breast).
As a disabled woman, the effects of my cancer treatment also made me feel like it was impossible to achieve normative societal standards of womanhood. My scars and physical deformities and limb difference from cancer made me an "ugly" woman, or that I could never achieve a standard of womanhood that was expected of me. In some ways, discovering queerness alleviated this because I felt less pressure within queer spaces for my body to look a certain way, that within a queer identity there was more space for my disabled body to be accepted. (survey, 25, cis-woman, queer, sarcoma)
2. Invisibility within cancer care
2.1 Navigating disclosure amongst cis-heteronormative assumptions
LGBTQI AYAs faced unique difficulties disclosing their diverse genders, sexualities and intersex variations within cancer care. Most participants kept careful control over the disclosure of their identities: only five (6.2%) participants were out to all their cancer HCPs; the majority (n=62, 76.5%) disclosed selectively to only some HCPs, while 14 (17.3%) were not out to any of the HCPS involved in their cancer care. Participants explained that HCPs rarely asked about their diverse genders and sexualities and assumed they were straight and cisgender. Cara (29, cis woman, gay, melanoma) explained that one of their HCPs “just assumed straight away that my partner was my friend, and it’s awkward to correct him. That’s happened on a few occasions… it’s awkward and uncomfortable. And I think it probably makes my partner feel a little bit.. on the outskirts too”. Cis-heteronormative assumptions from HCPs made participants feel “alienated”, “awkward”, “silenced” and “pissed off”, forcing the “work” of disclosure upon participants: “heterosexuality remains the norm and the default. It forces us to do the work of coming out” (survey, 38, cis woman, queer, medical intervention).
However, challenging cis-heteronormative assumptions from HCPs was difficult for many participants. A survey participant (33, non-binary, queer, bladder) explained that they were “not fully out [to HCPs]” as “it is a newer self-process and not discussed with everyone”. Another participant said they were worried that if they came out to their HCP, this would then be shared with their parents: “The reason I haven’t [disclosed] is because I’m afraid they’ll say something to my parents by accident” (survey, 26, cis woman, queer, lymphoma). Disclosure takes “emotional energy” and is associated with fear of negative reactions.
Being gay, even now I'm twenty- there's always still that little bit of fear when you come out to people, even if it is in a sort of blasé, casual way. There's always that little bit inside you going, “Ooh.. what are they going to think?”, “how do they feel?”- which will probably be a forever thing, you never know how everybody individually is going to react. (Carter, 20, cis man, gay, leukaemia)
This draining of emotional energy is greater when dealing with the symptoms of cancer, accompanied by fear of potential hostility from HCPs: “It isn’t safe [to disclose]. I don’t like having to justify myself ad infinitum” (survey, 35, non-binary, bisexual, breast); “sometimes I’m in too much pain or just too tired to deal with their unpredictable responses” (survey, 37, queer femme, queer, medical intervention); “I think there is a direct and depressing relationship between my loss of physical strength and the amount of emotional energy I’ve expended being scared of poor treatment and/or advocating or educating” (survey, 37, queer femme, medical intervention). Some participants held a fear that disclosure would impact on their treatment and made efforts to avoid looking “alternative”: “I was very scared about my treatment if I told anyone. I already look alternative and even had a normal hair cut when I knew I had surgeries coming up” (survey, 37, non-binary, queer, medical intervention); “I don’t want them to know I’m gay because I don’t want them to treat me different” (Oscar, 27, cis man, gay, lymphoma). AYAs who were older reflected that fear of HCP negative reactions to disclosure were greater at a young age:
I'm sort of not comfortable until I can sort of gauge how I think they're going to respond. When I was sort of younger, I would care more how they would personally react. But as I’m getting older, I just care less about that. (Aaron, 32, cis man, gay, bowel)
Non-disclosure of sexual and gender identities had negative consequences. It meant that participants were unable to bring their “full self” to their cancer care: “it feels sometimes you are complicating it by bringing your full self to the table” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia).
Non-disclosure also meant AYAs found it difficult to ask questions about their cancer diagnosis and the impact of their treatment, reporting that they were “too scared to ask” or “didn’t want to sound silly” (Cara, 29, cis woman, gay, melanoma), potentially missing out on important information for their cancer care.
I feel alienated when discussions around fertility and sexual health post cancer are so cis-heteronormative. I don't feel comfortable "outing" myself to my doctors in these contexts when it's assumed that fertility is related to heterosexual penetrative sex. I'm too scared to ask whether I'm able to preserve my fertility (eg freezing eggs? I don't even know what the options are because it's never been spoken about) so that a same-sex partner could carry a pregnancy, or any other alternative for queer pregnancies. (survey, 26, cis woman, bisexual, lymphoma)
Not disclosing one’s identity was associated with participants feeling “fake” and like they were “lying”: “I feel like a bad human because I’m going against my value system of telling the truth, but I have to do that in order to preserve my mental health” (Jessie, 37, non-binary and genderfluid, queer, BRCA mutation). Non-disclosure meant that participants would not receive holistic cancer care.
Understanding a person's sexual identity preference, you need to be looking at it holistically, because you're not just looking at the anatomy anymore. You're looking at what that might mean to that person and what values and ideals they have behind it, which will change the treatment plan. It'll change the treatment process, which I realized when I was chatting with my specialist that we weren't coming from the same place and background. And that's why he wasn't fully understanding. (Luca, 33, non-binary, queer, bladder)
There was a call for increased visibility and safety of LGBTQI AYAs in cancer care, as a survey participant (38, cis woman, queer, medical intervention) told us, “We are not in general afraid to come out/tick a box because it’s a “private matter”. We’re afraid health professionals won’t react well. WE WANT TO BE COUNTED. We want to be seen”.
2.2 Discrimination and paternalistic cancer care
Fear of HCP hostility was a reality for many participants, with a substantial proportion (n=41, 45.6%) reporting experiencing discrimination as part of their cancer care. As a survey participant (37, non-binary, lesbian and queer, unknown cancer) told us “I’ve been discriminated against by every health professional, other than those who are queer themselves. As an LGBTIQ+ person in cancer care, choosing health professionals is about seeking the best worse option”. This discrimination included inappropriate comments, exclusion of partners, objectification, sexual harassment and paternalistic treatment. For example, a survey participant (39, cis woman, lesbian, cervical) reported “a doctor told me I shouldn’t have an issue with her putting her fingers inside of me “to test” something (no idea what to this day) because “people like you like this kind of thing”. Jessie (37, non-binary and genderfluid, queer, BRCA mutation) told us about the exclusion of their partner from an appointment with a medical professional:
I took her to the appointment, and he said it wasn’t protocol to have your partner in the room, but I’ve seen other people with their partners in those rooms. He just obviously didn’t like it. She just walked in, but he didn’t give her any eye contact. He didn’t acknowledge her.
In a similar vein, Ellen told us “It was horrible because he [HCP] didn't even acknowledge my partner in the room and treated us like we were little girls. So, we did not go back to that guy” (36, cis woman, lesbian, uterine). It was more common for trans participants to report experiencing transphobic discrimination during their cancer care (n=13, 72.2%) than for LGBQ participants to report experiencing homophobic or biphobic discrimination(n=31, 41.3%). For example, a survey participant (22, trans man, queer, melanoma) reported objectification of their trans identity in their cancer care: “they simply don’t treat me as a person. I become an object and an issue as a trans person but also a young adult patient with cancer”. Other participants told us, “In group health sessions with allied health, or in hospital wards, there is so much transphobic/cis-normative talk between health workers and staff, I overhear it between them and it feels horrible” (survey, 37, non-binary and genderfluid woman, lesbian and queer, unknown cancer); “I don’t disclose that I’m intersex to everyone. Those who do know have not always responded positively unfortunately” (survey, 22, non-binary, bisexual, intersex, medical intervention).
Paternalistic treatment was evident in reports of feeling unheard by medical professionals and excluded from decision-making about their care, due to their young age and sexual identity. For example, Carter (20, cis man, gay, leukemia) reported: “Fertility preservation options were an issue with my treatment, as I had my reasons for not wanting preservation linked to my sexuality, that my healthcare team didn't get at best, or rejected completely as a regretful action at worst”. Conversely, Jade reported that her oncologist was “strict” and “wasn't very gay friendly”, as she would not approve saving Jade’s “eggs on ice” before surgery, to facilitate Jade having a “surrogate pregnancy later”, so Jade “left that hospital because of that” (Jade, 34, cis woman, lesbian, breast). A non-binary survey participant with breast cancer reported that medical professionals “did not want to listen” to them when they asked for a mastectomy, voicing that “I’d rather have them removed, they aren’t really important to me”, to which they were told “women at your age like to preserve their femininity however they can” (36, non-binary, bisexual, breast). As a result, this participant described that
Every day I plan my next surgery and fear recurrence. And I resent the team of female doctors scrambling to save my poor 31-year-old breasts. And now I’m mutilated anyway. It’s never been safe, I don’t feel like it’s ever going to be safe. Why couldn’t they just listen to me.
Objectification of young trans and intersex bodies was commonly reported: “They simply don’t treat me as a person. I become an object and an issue as a trans person but also a young adult patient with cancer". (survey, 21, trans man, queer, melanoma).
The medical community has been nothing but abusive and exploitative regarding my intersex body. I've been subjected to medical photography, forced sedation, forced invasive examinations, forced surgical procedures, and lied to about needing surgical procedures under the claim that I had cancerous growths. (33, non-binary, queer, intersex, medical intervention)
Because of experiencing discrimination and feeling excluded from their own care, LGBTQI AYAs reported feeling that their sexual and gender identities were “unwelcome” and invalidated in their cancer care. Dylan (32, non-binary, gay, leukemia) told us, “the environments are incredibly heteronormative and hetero type, so you instantly feel unwelcome and that permeates into every conversation you have from then on because you wonder what validity your identity has in that space”. For a survey participant, this negatively impacted their own feelings about their sexual identity: “cancer has never impacted on my ability to be open about my sexuality, it is the discrimination I have experienced from health professionals during my cancer care that has reduced my ability to be proud of who I am” (37, non-binary and gender fluid woman, lesbian and queer, unknown cancer type).
A number of participants also commented on the importance of HCPs understanding the intersection of identities. For some, “cultural identity comes before my queer identity” (Jessie, 37, non-binary and genderfluid, queer, BRCA mutation). Others talked about the intersection of disability and queer identities “I would like extra support with being trans and autistic not just it being ignored so I can be treated like a cis male” (survey, 33, trans man, queer, uterine); “being a trans person with ASD and having cancer is really tricky because I have extra needs….I find that it’s really hard to have all those identities addressed and often one of them or all of them aren't addressed most of the time” (Howard, 33, trans man, queer, uterine). Finding “a LGBTQIA+ knowledgeable and affirming practitioner who is accessible” in a rural or regional area was also problematic:
Like the other aspects of my identity it's very difficult to find an LGBTQIA+ knowledgeable and affirming practitioner who is accessible. If you live in a capital city you will find one….. In terms of being intersex, I wouldn't feel comfortable having a Pap smear in a regional rural area because my external genitalia look different. I have one cervix but two uteruses in the one space. It's very weird to bring it up especially when you consider my gender identity and the way that I look. I think most health professionals who didn't understand LGBTQIA+ issues intimately would be very confused, and this would impact on my care. (survey, 22, genderqueer man, gay, intersex, medical intervention)
The consequence was that LGBTQI AYAs were often “referred to services in cities”, or experienced unmet needs in relation to their care.
2.3 Cis-heteronormativity within cancer information
LGBTQI AYAs were rendered invisible within cancer information resources for patients. Resources about cancer and being LGBTQI were reported as being “pretty much non-existent” (Aaron, 32, cis man, gay, bowel), with only 16 (19.8%) participants agreeing with the item “I am able to find helpful information about being a LGBTQI person with cancer”. For example, Aaron (32, cis man, gay, bowel) said that he “couldn’t find anything that’s specifically related to gay men going through it” and Dylan (32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia) reported that “all of the information out there, it’s all straight people on the leaflets and is about straight life”. Participants explained that there was a particular lack of information about sexual wellbeing for LGBTQI people with cancer, describing that there is “little consideration on how cancer care impacts the sex life of sexual minorities and how it is considered disposable in the face of survival conversations” (survey, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia). Information about sexual wellbeing after cancer was described as “incredibly heteronormative” (Dylan, 32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia) and “very generalized” (Carter, 20, cis man, gay, leukaemia), with “nothing at all about being in a female-female relationship (Cara, 29, cis woman, gay, melanoma). The same was said for information about fertility preservation procedures.
That whole [fertility preservation] process was incredibly heteronormative, the face to face of interactions were fine, but all the forms that I had to fill in well were heavily weighted not only towards heterosexual relationships, but also fairly conventional understandings of heterosexual relationships. So it was, “as a woman is your husband party to this process”, “as a husband, is your wife party to this process” (Joseph, 37, cis man, gay testicular).
Carter (20, cis man, gay, leukaemia) wished they had access to appropriate information around sexuality, reporting: “it would have been nice to have proper education around homosexual sex … because I’m missing out on a lot of school, I also missed the sex ed classes”.
3. Precarious social support for LGBTQI AYAs with cancer
3.1 Social support during cancer is helpful for LGBTQI AYAs
For LGBTQI AYAs, support people played a unique and crucial role in navigation of cancer care. Most participants agreed that “I had strong support from family and friends” (n=55, 57.9%), “could get access to several people who understand and support me” (n=52, 54.7%) and “had at least one person who could attend medical appointments with me” (n=60, 63.2%). When asked who their support people were during cancer, participants nominated their parents (n=43, 55.1%), partners (n=33, 42.3%), other family (n=28, 35.9%) and friends (n=30, 38.4%).
For example, Howard, a 33-year-old queer trans man with uterine cancer, said his dad was “very accepting and supportive” and helped him to attend cancer care at a women’s hospital. He said, “I'm glad my dad came with me because it wasn't as scary. I was in a room and there was like five other women, having my dad made me feel not as bad.” Participants who had partners also said their partners were “very emotionally and practically supportive” and helped them “advocate for myself and keep everything straight and figure out what I was supposed to” (Anita, 34, cis woman, lesbian, uterine). The presence of a same-gender partner could also be a way of disclosing sexuality, if they were acknowledged and introduced as such, as Oscar (27 cis man, gay, lymphoma) explained, “the minute my partner came to things like to appointments with me, it was pretty clear.” Participants said that having people around them during cancer who could provide “emotional”, “moral” (Ellen, 36, cis woman, lesbian, uterine) and “practical” support was “reaffirming”, as Carter (20, cis man, gay, leukemia) commented:
Everybody that I was involved with, my parents, friends, family, everybody sort of rallied around me. [It was] really, really reaffirming in myself that I was... It increased my self-worth, that... you know, people were invested in me as a person.
Participants explained that it took time and required intentional action to build supportive communities around themselves, as Ellen (36, cis woman, lesbian, uterine) commented: “It's taken me several years to curate a community for myself but I've done it. The people who I have now are community-oriented, social justice minded, intersectionality-thinking people who really, really give a shit”.
3.2 LGBTQI AYAs navigate limited support
A minority of participants were vulnerable to lack of support and isolation due to the combination of their younger age and still developing social networks, and the impacts of minority stressors including anti-LGBTQI prejudice from family and school friends. Nine participants (n=9, 11.5%) reported that they had “no support people during their cancer experience”. Alex (35, non-binary, gay, testicular) said, “at the time, I didn't have anybody I could have with me [at appointments]” because “first of all, I didn't get along with my parents” and because “I also do not have any really close friends that I felt I could actually probably rely on.” Some participants explained that they had “no connection with immediate or extended biological family due to...well, my family are quite awful. And they don’t like queers” (survey, 38, cis female, queer, medical intervention). Others said they lacked family support as “family can be quite toxic” including one survey participant, (survey, 30, cis woman, queer, lung), who said they had been “told by my parent I have cancer because I’m gay”. For a number of participants, family were “around” during cancer treatment, but support was conditional on concealing their sexual and/or gender identities:
My parents don't know I am queer and my partner is a trans woman. So when they're around, my partner will present as male. She only just came out as trans two years ago. We were planning on coming out much sooner but then cancer happened. I don't want to rock the boat right now because I don't think my parents are going to be very accepting. I don't want to have to deal with that on top of cancer. (Brianna, 26, cis woman, queer and asexual, lymphoma)
Many participants also lacked a supportive network of friends during cancer. Some participants said their “friends are too busy” (survey, 33, non-binary, gay, prostate) to provide the support they needed. Others said they experienced anti-LGBTQI prejudice when they came out to their school friends and hadn’t yet developed new social networks before being diagnosed with cancer. For example, Aaron (32, cis man, gay, colorectal) explained that “none of my school friends were accepting of me being gay” and that when he moved from his country hometown to live in a capital city:
Everyone I met was through the clubbing scene, so I didn't really have any friends that I could rely on. If I wasn’t gay, then I would probably have a lot of friends from high school. So, I’d have that sort of resource network there, that sort of natural resource.
Anita (34, cis woman, lesbian, uterine) commented that unlike older people with cancer who often “had a strong network and all of that stuff… I didn't necessarily have all of that so it's a very different experience.”
Sixty (67.4%) participants agreed that they “felt supported by other LGBTQI people during cancer”. However, participants reported that, it could be “hard” to call on support from their LGBTQ chosen family and friends as these people were often experiencing their own life stressors.
With multiple and complex traumas in our communities (there is evidence to support this, I’m not just talking about people I know), higher suicide rates, mental health, homelessness, lower employment... asking for help from partner/s and chosen family can be hard. We are stretched thin and exhausted by this world and its cruelty. Trauma lives on in our collective lives, in our personal histories and the histories we share across multiple identities and communities. (Survey, 37, queer femme, unknown primary cancer)
Many participants also lacked an intimate partner; only half of our participants (n=47, 49.5%) were in a relationship, including 39 (41.1%) with one partner and 8 (8.4%) with multiple partners. For those in relationships, cancer “really put a strain on our relationship and led to the end of our relationship” (Oscar, 27, cis man, gay, lymphoma). Dylan (32, non-binary, gay, leukaemia) explained that for them, the difficulties of cancer were exacerbated by lack of support from family which placed strain on their intimate relationships: “I don't really have the support of my family. So, I ended up putting all of that on a partner, and that became too much”. Participants said there was a need for improved support for their carers, particularly LGBTQI partners and other chosen family and friends, as Jessie (37, non-binary and genderfluid, queer, BRCA mutation) commented:
For me, particularly, the LGBTQIA [LGBTQI Aboriginal] community, we need support for our partners as much as we need support for ourselves and we need support for our like non-sexual, non-romantic partners. My primary partner is Aboriginal and there's nothing in that space for Aboriginal Queer women. There should be something out there that overlaps in some way and there just isn't…. It's all really white, and white Australian. My partners have not always been white, and they felt actively excluded from all of the materials I brought home for their sexuality, gender and race.
Brianna (26, cis woman, queer and asexual, lymphoma) explained that support to maintain the capacity of her carer was crucial as “it's like I'm teetering on the edge. If anyone that is supporting me right now decides that they want to stop supporting me, I'm going to be in a lot of trouble.”
3.3 Finding cancer peer support networks is difficult for LGBTQI AYAs
Participants described difficulties building or finding cancer peer support networks, and reported that they often felt “isolated” (Howard, 33, trans man, queer, uterine) as the intersections between being young, LGBTQI and having cancer made it difficult to meet other people with similar experiences. Dylan (32, non-binary, gay, leukemia) said “having a super rare cancer, at this age, and then being queer on top, is just not really a thing”. Cara (29, cis woman, gay, melanoma) commented, “even in the waiting room. The majority of people are over 70. So, I feel like it makes it really difficult to find other people who you can talk to.” Luca (33, non-binary, queer, bladder) explained, “when it comes to cancer, you need somebody that gets it – someone who understands cancer, ideally the type of cancer you have, and potentially comes from the same background or demographics as you”. However, she said she was “yet to meet someone that is LGBTQ with the same type of cancer in the same age as me” despite having “scoured the globe for young females with a similar cancer and presentation.” Brianna (26, cis woman, queer and asexual, lymphoma) also commented:
It's difficult to find young people with cancer. While it's not exactly difficult to find queer people on the Internet, it's difficult to find people who have the same interests or experiences as you do.
Many participants also said they struggled to find cancer support groups where they fit in, including Alex (35, non-binary, gay, testicular) who said, “there were no support groups for men in my situation - gay and single. There were support groups for the family man, but that didn’t interest me at all because that's not who I am.” Whilst some participants said the “internet sort of filled that gap”, others found online support groups to either be hostile or unhelpful. Flynn (34, non-binary, queer, uterine) was “kicked out” of an online support group for young people with their cancer type “for asking them to please not be racist, transphobes”. They said, “I had one of the only sources of information completely ripped out of my hands because they wanted to be racist more than they wanted to help people”. Howard (33, trans man, queer, uterine) said that “having autism […] plus being trans plus cancer” made it hard “really hard finding specific help” because “not many people in the population are Trans, not many people have sensory issues. And so, it was nearly impossible to find support”.