All 25 participants were primiparas with ages ranging from 24–35 years (29.36 ± 2.91). Most of the participants were urban residents (n = 23) with a bachelor’s degree or higher (n = 14). The average age of the babies was approximately five months (5.42 ± 2.83). The detailed characteristics of the participants are presented in Table 1. The duration of the interviews ranged from 32–56 minutes (mean = 38 minutes). The data analysis resulted in two major themes and six subthemes, as follows.
Table 1
Characteristics of the women interviewed (n = 25)
Characteristics | n (%)/ |
Age | |
(year) | 29.36 ± 2.91 |
Residence | |
Urban | 23 (92.0%) |
Rural | 2 (8.0%) |
Education level | |
High school or below | 4 (16.0%) |
Junior college | 7 (28.0%) |
Bachelor degree or above | 14 (56.0%) |
Employment status | |
Full-time job | 14 (56.0%) |
Unemployed | 11 (44.0%) |
Family per capita income | |
< 4000 yuan | 10 (40.0%) |
≥ 4000 yuan | 15 (60.0%) |
Age of baby at interview | |
(month) | 5.42 ± 2.83 |
Sex of baby | |
Boy | 13 (52.0%) |
Girl | 12 (48.0%) |
Living with parents during “yuezi” | |
Yes | 19(76.0%) |
No | 6(24.0%) |
History of depression | |
Yes | 7 (28.0%) |
No | 18 (72.0%) |
1. Body weakness, pain and sleep deprivation are extremely common during the first confinement postpartum period.
Several mothers reported their depression in terms of deterioration in physical health and apparently experienced general pain, weakness, less strength and puerperal fever after childbirth. Most of the participants reported that various traditional customs they had to follow, especially within the first month of confinement, sometimes aggravated their hardship. They described that they were afraid of receiving poor health recovery if they did not follow customs. One participant recalled her tough experience during confinement.
“It was in summer when I was in my confinement period … the house was truly hot. I truly wanted to under air conditioner … but my families persuaded me from doing this, even opening the window was not allowed, claiming for better health condition.… so almost of time, I drenched in sweat. The house even becomes …you know, very smells bad… I don’t want to recall that experience.” (Participant 1)
In addition, moderate-to-very severe pain, including postdelivery cesarean section incision pain, lateral vaginal incision pain and several types of chronic pain, such as wrist pain, hand joint pain, knee joint pain and waist pain, was mentioned by the participants in this study during the early postpartum period. Mothers who experienced pain reported that fatigue and cold increased pain. Most of them ascribed this chronic pain and related uncomfortableness to poor recovery during the first month of confinement and suggested that they were sequelae. However, some mothers emphasized that their deterioration in physical health should be attributed to insufficient instrumental support to help with their basic needs. As participant 8 recounted,
“It was truly hard to take care of my baby by myself without others’ help… I always held my baby in one arm, and the other one did the chores… The things effortlessly to finish by two hands were tough to me to do… for example, I could only use one of my hands to pour water from the pot; therefore, I got a bad recovery in my “yue zi” (doing the month) and often got an ache in my wrist joints.” (Participant 8)
Anxiety about negative sleep experiences was frequently reported by the mothers. The mothers noted that low-quality sleep was the main extremely negative experience during the first month postpartum. They suffer from sleep deprivation, extreme fatigue and biorhythm disorders during confinement. They often cannot sleep for a long time, either in the daytime or at night, because of the requirements of feeding or comforting babies. Some mothers stated that they could not even go into deep sleep when babies fell asleep because they could not help worry about their babies’ various needs. For Participant 20, such feelings were more pronounced.
“My husband and mother-in-law helped me in turn, yet I lost sleep for almost the first half a month after the baby was born. My sleep is easily interrupted, and I have concentrated all my energy on my baby. I couldn’t stop worrying about him.” (Participant 20)
Disturbed sleep-related emotional problems affect mothers. Some mothers mentioned that they could not be patient with the babies’ crying and were often easily angered due to exhaustion. Participant 22 did not feel like a good mother.
“Sometimes, the baby made me a fuss in the night, I didn’t sleep well, and I was easily angered about that. “Why are you crying? What’s the matter with you?” I was yelling to her… Obviously, I knew without any response… After that, I blamed myself a lot immediately… I just thought I was like a madman.” (Participant 22)
2. Struggling with much effort, sacrifice and obstacles to breastfeeding
Eighteen participants specifically mentioned their breastfeeding experience. Thirteen of them struggled to stimulate the secretion of milk. They paid for galactagogue divisions, took traditional Chinese medicine or folk prescriptions, drank plenty of broth, or had massages to increase the milk supply. However, most of the above measures have usually made little difference, which has led the majority of mothers into the shadow of failure and further led to a series of mental problems. Sometimes, women who fail to breastfeed are sensitive to their families’ support and even distort others’ words and motives.
“My husband got the folk prescription from his hometown, it’s Western medicine… it may have some side effects. However, he even persuaded me to take it. The more he pushed me, the more I resisted… I thought he only cared about his child but did not consider my feelings at all.” (Participant 12)
Eight participants reported that their wish for body shape contradicted the need to breastfeed the baby. Most mothers in this study agreed that the nutritional supply of their children was the most important thing, and they supposed that consuming many nutritious foods, especially broth, may help promote lactation and achieve this priority. Thus, they sacrificed their own desire to lose weight to meet the need to feed the babies.
“I never stopped eating and never minded how fat I was, for what? Of course, I did this for my children’s supply of nutrition… I didn’t lose weight until the day that I stopped to feed my baby.” (Participant 25)
Some mothers indicated that families’ unsupportive attitudes or behaviors sometimes aggravated their difficulty in breastfeeding and even restrained milk production. In particular, a few of the participants mentioned being unsatisfied with their mothers-in-law, who were often afraid of starving the babies, and continuously pushed them to feed the babies, even with little patience with the natural process of colostrum secretion. As a result, almost all of those mothers expressed anxiety and irritability about that experience during the interviews.
“I was very depressed because of my little breast milk… I truly wanted to breastfeed my baby, while my mother-in-law just couldn’t figure out why I must stick to doing so…she always doubted if the baby wasn’t full or my breast milk wasn’t enough; I couldn’t stomach her constant nagging… The more she pushed me, the more I hated to breastfeed.” (participant 8)
In addition, some women stressed that they had received little professional guidance in the hospital after giving birth. On the basis of the participants’ experience in this study, mothers who received little professional guidance had more difficulties breastfeeding. For example, participant 12 could not cooperate well with her baby, who rejected sucking the breast but preferred sucking nipples.
“After I left the delivery room and went back to my ward, there was no one to teach me how to feed my baby. I did not have any experience, so I followed my mother-in-law’s advice to give my baby a milk bottle. Then, he refused to suck my breast, so I gave up breastfeeding at that time.” (Participant 12)
3. Helplessness in childcare with insufficient or unreliable social support.
Many mothers mentioned that they could not obtain prompt professional guidance when they needed relevant support. Some of them emphasized that the stress was extraordinarily increased when the babies were crying due to the discomfort caused by an illness or for no reason. Mother 25 recalled her tough experience in the hospital with her sick baby.
“I felt very troubled when my baby was sick. She was too young to express herself… She just could not stop crying loudly… all my family was in a mess because of her… I couldn’t figure out what happened to her… whether she got a sick or not. I was very anxious… I truly need a professional to teach me how to deal with it at that time, but I didn’t know who I should turn to…” (Participant 25)
Some participants felt helpless and were overloaded by childcare-related chores due to the lack of instrumental support from family members. In addition, even when help was obtained, it was still insufficient or unsuitable.
“My mother-in-law came to look after me during my confinement. However, she was neither capable of taking care of the baby and me nor good at cooking… actually, I have little breast milk, I need lots of nutrition supply, but she just cooked simple meals with a little vegetable and fruit. I sometimes got angry with her.” (participant 17)
Several mothers mentioned that most maternal child social service institutions could provide limited help to them. They noted that it was difficult to find a qualified and experienced babysitter from there, and they were always worried that the babysitters were not reliable enough to look after the babies alone without other families’ surveillance. Some of them even doubted that babysitters did not treat their babies well or even do something harmful to the babies when they were absent.
“To be honest, I worry about the babysitters… I don’t trust them… because the cases of child abuse were frequently reported. I could not truly put a monitor in my house, right? That is too crazy.” (participant 22)
4. Confusing difficult access to scientific maternal and child health knowledge.
In addition to the direct support obtained from professional support, most of the participants reported their desire for easy access to scientific maternal and child health knowledge so that they could solve common problems by themselves. They particularly expressed their urgent demands for knowledge about maternal child health maintenance and promotion. However, many mothers reported that the information and knowledge obtained from books, the internet, and peers’ parental sharing were sometimes inaccurate and unhelpful, which often caused feelings of insecurity, confusion and helplessness and brought many difficulties to them in making appropriate health decisions. Therefore, many mothers indicated that they tend to trust multichannel access information through the process of frequent comparison and integration. Participant 5 described her puzzled experience with knowledge acquisition.
“Most mothers around me were guessing, no matter what questions (about baby care) you asked them, the answer was “I guess… maybe…” that made me truly confused, and I didn’t know whether to believe them or not … The basic knowledge of baby care should have been public … I hope that such simple but meaningful knowledge will be spread more widely and be more helpful without any charge.” (Participant 5)
The importance of maternal self-recovery in terms of physical and mental health was noted by some participants in this study. Nonetheless, many mothers mentioned that much attention was given only to infants’ health and development, while maternal mental and physical health was seldom considered, and the related information and knowledge support were usually neglected, especially when they were discharged from hospitals. Mother 10 said that she was unable to deal with mental recovery without professional informational support.
“I just did some sport or yoga in my house. As for internal recovery, my mind was totally blank; there was a teacher who helped me perform mental exercises, but when I left there (confinement service center), I did not know how to do it anymore.” (Participant 10)
5. Frustrating increasing family conflicts centering on mother and mother-in-law relations.
Most of the participants mentioned that they felt it stressful to get along with their parents-in-law during the postpartum period. Because of the custom that mothers-in-law take care of babies after childbirth, the majority of participants had to live with their mothers-in-law. Therefore, they noted that the different lifestyles, habits, values and visions among the two generations were reflected in various aspects of daily life and became the main reasons for family conflicts. However, the major trigger of family conflicts was related to caring for the babies. Many mothers indicated that they were often in conflict with their mothers-in-law due to different parenting philosophies and ways of caring. Mother 16 felt depressed that she could only make concessions on the matter.
“My mother-in-law was very aggressive; she did not accept my advice at all; she insisted on her old traditional method of caring, even regardless of the doctor’s recommendation. She often said that if I wanted to get help from her, I must follow her, or she would leave.” (Participant 16)
Several mothers indicated that the conflicts became increasingly intense sometimes because their partners were incapable or unwilling to mediate the relationship between them and mothers-in-law. Mother 21 recalled her conflicts with her mother-in-law and described how she felt disappointed with her husband.
“Once, my mother-in-law called me to lunch, I felt not very comfortable, so I told her I would eat later… To my surprise, she directly complained to my husband that I wasn’t satisfied with her…then, he just believed her and recklessly yelled at me on the phone… I just wanted to die.” (Participant 21)
Nonetheless, many mothers comforted themselves that conflicts were common in many other families and that the differences in parenting philosophies between two generations were unavoidable. Some of them mentioned that they should learn to bear conflicts for Chinese tradition: a peaceful family will prosper. Most of the participants were reluctant to talk about conflicts within their family and treated them as private during the interviews. Mother 22, who suffered a lot in family conflict, said,
“Every time we have different opinions, my mother-in-law said I should listen to her because she was helping me. Therefore, I had to compromise and comfort myself that she did that all out of kindness… but in fact… I could still not accept it…and just was bearing her.” (Participant 22)
6. Sticking to work or not bringing much entanglement to primiparas
Many mothers changed their work intentions after childbirth. They paid more attention to their family, particularly their babies, while they paid less personal consideration to their future careers. Mother 1 spoke of her obvious changes in work choice.
“My mind changed obviously after childbirth. It was impossible for me to choose such a common job in the past because I insisted that people should always be positive and ambitious. However, everything changed when I became a mother, the consideration about the time of keeping baby company became the dominant factor that influenced my choice.” (participant 1)
Almost half of the mothers had given up jobs temporarily for their families. The main reason is that taking care of babies full-time with little support from others. Most of the time, mothers felt that it was worth sacrificing their own career to take care of their babies, but sometimes, they were also deeply influenced by the side effects of quitting their jobs. A lower family income, less confidence and personal worth, social withdrawal and isolation made them feel depressed. Mother 4 expressed her concern about the future.
“Because I had no job now, so… self-worth is not good… thus far, all things going well…but sometimes I was wondering when my child grew up, he will never rely on me anymore, I can’t imagine what I would be like at that time.” (participant 4)
For working mothers, work-family conflicts were more obvious than they were for those without jobs. They were unwilling to give up their jobs, mainly because they wanted to shoulder the family’s financial burden with their husbands. Additionally, mothers who sought self-worth and fulfillment from work did not want to be isolated from society. Work–family conflicts confused mother 13 greatly.
“Out of long-term consideration, I couldn’t treat my job perfunctorily; I must be serious toward my job. However, my child needed me; I couldn’t accompany him most of the time, let alone pay more attention to his early education. I suffered in this conflict and always felt guilt.” (participant 13)
However, several mothers complained that it was almost impossible to concentrate on their jobs, as they were always worried about their babies during work time. In addition, some mothers reported that their babies were very dependent on them while rejecting others’ care, which aggravated their anxiety and guilt. Many mothers mentioned that they were stressed by poor work efficiency, often had difficulties finishing work on time and being despised by their supervisors. Most of them believed that more support and understanding from supervisors could relieve the pressure. Mother 24 represented the negative effects of caring for a baby on her job.
“I do some translation at home, since I had a baby, my workload had been decreasing. I could work for eight hours a day in the past, but that is impossible for me now to do so. Because I cost most of the time caring for the baby.” (participant 24)
Nonetheless, some mothers recognized working as a way of escaping the burdens of heavy chores and family conflicts. By working, their attention was switched, and their body and mind could relax for a while.
“After about three months, I felt much better because I went back to work, I could get rid of the stressful circumstance in family temporarily, even though I missed my baby when I worked, I could indeed take a deep breath!” (participant 18)