In the scientific literature, love has been conceptualized as a temporally dynamic burst of emotion shared between individuals which has been elevated to the status of a “supreme emotion” (Fredrickson, 2016; Zhou et al., 2022). The theory of “positivity resonance” (Fredrickson, 2016; Major et al., 2018) posits that everyday love emerges from small acts or gestures that foster positive connections between individuals. This line of research situates love within everyday interactions, including but extending it beyond romantic contexts. Experiences of “love in everyday life” (LEL) has been linked with psychological well-being and improved sleep quality (Dickens et al., 2021; Major et al., 2018; Oravecz et al., 2020; Prinzing et al., 2023; Zhou et al., 2022). However, the daily dynamics between feeling and expressing love and their implications for well-being are largely unexplored.
Consistent with research on love and loving-kindness (e.g. Condon & Makransky, 2020; Kahana et al., 2021), we distinguish between two “dimensions” of LEL: a felt aspect (love from another), and an extending aspect (love towards another). We label the felt dimension of love as “feeling loved” or “felt love,” and the extending dimension of love as “expressing love” or “expressed love.” Research has explored giving and receiving communal support and responsiveness within the context of existing relationships (e.g. Clark & Monin, 2006; Lemay et al., 2007). Lemay et al. (2007) described the link between an individual’s perception of support from their partner and their own extended responsiveness. In this context, the authors explored the mechanism through which extended and perceived support are related, with individuals projecting their own support onto their perceptions of their partner (Lemay et al., 2007). While this study is contextualized to support within a romantic partnership, and noted to be limited to a dyadic interaction (Lemay et al., 2007), this mechanism can be extended to the context of LEL, suggesting a possible linkage between expressing love and feeling loved. Consistent with research on the cultivation of another form of love, compassion (e.g. Roeser et al., 2018), it is possible that felt and expressed love dynamically influence each other, creating a positive feedback loop where an increase in expressed love yields an increase in felt love over time. Our study aims to capture the dynamics of these two aspects of LEL as they unfold over time.
Our conceptual model for love dynamics is similar to that of affect dynamics (Kuppens et al., 2010). We assumed that the two dimensions of love – felt and expressed – can be described in terms of their baseline levels, intra-individual (stochastic) variability, and inertia (e.g., time to return to baseline following changes in the system or auto-correlation), and most importantly, their possible asymmetric influence on each other (cross-influences) over time. Specifically, we used a continuous-time stochastic process model to capture the most important dynamical features and interactions of feeling and expressing love over time.
In this study, we focused on examining love dynamics in terms of inertias and cross-influences. Inertia describes how a process persists over time, as opposed to being regulated back to its baseline (Krone et al., 2018), and its level describes the persistence of momentary states over time. Higher inertia means that the level of loving feelings change more slowly, while lower inertia allows for quick regulation back to baseline. Each person can be described with their own inertia estimates of felt and expressed love, and these two can differ from each other. In addition, cross-influences (i.e., cross-effects) capture the reciprocal relationship between felt and expressed love (and vice versa) over time. The magnitudes of these cross-influences express how likely it is that changes in felt love/expressed love are followed by similar changes in the expressed love/felt love over time. These cross-influences are also individual-specific and can be asymmetrical. Therefore, we captured how likely it was that changes in the intensity of feeling loved were followed by changes in the intensity of expressing love, as well as the opposite, for every individual. We also derived group-level estimates for these inertias and the cross-influences via multilevel modeling.
To explore the links between sources of individual differences in love dynamics and psychological well-being, we selected relevant trait-level measures, such as general happiness, emotional well-being, and flourishing. While these three scales all explore dimensions of mental health and happiness, they each provide a unique aspect which may be informative in the context of LEL. General happiness provides comparative information (Lyubomirsky & Lepper, 1999), while emotional well-being captures mental health more wholly (Ware & Sherbourne, 1992). The flourishing scale includes additional dimensions regarding relationships, meaning, and general attitude toward the future (Diener et al., 2010). In fact, Major et al. (2018) found a link between flourishing mental health and positivity resonance. In relation to love dynamics in everyday life, each scale provides a component which may uniquely influence felt and expressed love. Gender was also included in the analysis as prior studies suggested possible gender differences (Prinzing et al., 2022).