Theme 1: Challenges associated with co-occurring ASC and EDs
All of the carers interviewed highlighted perceived extra challenges this particular comorbidity brought to caring for their loved ones.Nearly all carers described difficulties getting an ASC diagnosis for their child, or not recognising their child’s ASC traits due to an overshadowing mental health problem: all carers (n=11) recalled that their loved one only received an autism diagnosis after receiving treatment for mental health problems, most commonly AN. There was a perception that delayed recognition of ASC resulted in later problems due to a lack of appropriate early support and interventions:
“It was very important, the diagnosis is, and I really honestly think if we had had the right intervention, and if, say, she’d been picked up at 8 years old, I really don’t think we’d have the problems we have today, because we would have put the right support in place, education-wise.” (Participant 10).
However, even once their child had been diagnosed with ASC, this did not necessarily result in appropriate care. Carers felt that some ED services struggled, or refused, to treat people with comorbid ASC:
“They have been helpful with the eating disorder, but because they don’t recognise the diagnosed pathological demand avoidance a lot of the advice they give are things that I don’t feel are suitable for [child’s name], because they don't account for some of the complexities. A lot of the strategies that you might use for someone with autism don’t necessarily work with her.” (Participant 8).
Existing ED treatments were viewed as requiring adaptation as they felt that their children presented with specific needs compared to those with EDs only. For example, carers described how their children presented with challenging behaviours, including extreme weight loss, suicidality, self-harm, and violence towards the carer themselves. There was a perception that the combination of the ASC and ED resulted in a more extreme presentation: one carer described how the comorbidity acted as a “full-on tsunami”:
“[The community treatment team] kept talking about “riding the wave of anorexia” but it wasn’t a wave, it was a full-on tsunami. [Child’s name’s] inability to regulate - we knew anyway that she probably did have ASC, but that was diagnosed in hospital… [the community team] have no idea what this is like to live with, on a daily basis when somebody is in that starved state and has ASC.” (Participant 6).
As well as more extreme presentations, carers also described how their child’s ASC was associated with additional needs compared to EDs only, resulting in difficulties that were not always addressed by ED treatment. Perceived additional difficulties included sensory problems acting as a barrier to their child engaging in nutritional programmes, and a lack of insight into the ED itself. For example, the same carer described how her child’s difficulties with abstract thought made engaging in family therapy challenging:
“We could see that it was very different for [child’s name], she wasn’t able to access that ability to look at the future or anything like that, all the techniques that they were trying to use in the MFT - for example, we had to map out what she looked like/are like now, visually, what it was like with anorexia, what you wanted your future to look like and it was full of pictures and drawings and things like that. It made no difference; she ripped it up.” (Participant 6).
Theme 2: Lack of existing support
Despite the additional challenges associated with caring for someone with both ASC and an ED, carers reported experiencing a lack of help or support from services. This appeared to take two main forms: firstly, a perception that their child was not receiving support or treatment that considered the complexities associated with their ASC. In particular, there were concerns that ED treatment services lacked experience in adapting care for patients with ASC, with one carer describing ED treatment as designed “for neurotypicals… it doesn’t take into account the autism” (Participant 8). Consequently, carers described having to take an active role in advocating for their child to receive appropriate care:
“I don’t know if [the ASC diagnosis] is in progress or whether he’s been referred to anyone, or whatever… they forwarded it to the local Eating Disorder clinic who said “it’s got nothing to do with us” and they forwarded it to a central point who never got back to us or anything. I need to make a phone call to see if they’re going to do anything about it.” (Participant 1).
This participant’s experience reflects a common issue described by carers, which was that due to the severity of their child’s needs, and a lack of appropriate support by healthcare services, carers felt like they compensated by playing a more active role in their child’s treatment and increasing their caring responsibilities. A number of carers described how caring for their child increasingly dominated their lives as the ED progressed:
“We were supposed to be minding her, making sure that she wasn’t losing more weight, making sure that she was eating, basically me more than [husband] because he was going out to work every day. I had taken early retirement, I was very young, maybe forty-five. So I took early retirement from my job and education to mind [child]” (Participant 3).
As well as a perceived lack of appropriate support for their children, carers highlighted that they also felt that they could have benefited from adapted support for themselves and their families. Two carers described feeling like existing family-based treatments were not appropriate for children with ASC, specifying difficulties with capacity for abstract thought and demand avoidance. This lack of support appeared to be related to increasing carer stress and exhaustion, with one carer describing how she feels that she cannot “give [her child] the best I can” as she is having to provide “24/7” care (Participant 10).
Theme 3: Impact on carers
Themes 2 and 3 were found to be closely interlinked in the analysis: the additional needs associated with ASC and EDs, and a lack of appropriate service provision, were perceived by carers as creating a significant burden of care, and dominating their lives and their identities: “it’s all-consuming, it doesn’t leave you time to think about much else” (Participant 8). For some carers, this represented a financial impact, including giving up their job to care for their child, or seeking private treatment. One carer felt that adapting their lives around the ED in this way in fact reinforced the ED itself:
“We are ingraining his problems. We have given him what he wanted. It’s like scraping and scraping a piece of wood. We have fed and been a martyr to his problems” (Participant 1).
In particular, the co-occurring ASC and ED was perceived as negatively impacting the family environment. Carers in relationships described how caring for their child put a strain on their relationship with their partner, particularly where the couple disagreed about how best to care for the child. The time and effort required to care for their child with ASC and ED was also described as affecting their ability to support their other children, creating feelings of resentment and anger within the family:
“The younger girls suffered greatly at the head of all of this. I think [sibling’s name], because she was older, she was starting college, she was sort of moved on but she was affected by it as well. I think that they were resentful for a long time. Especially the youngest girl - she’s just turned twenty-four. I think she felt that [child with ASC and ED] took me away from her” (Participant 3).
There was a sense that some carers were expending all their energy into caring for their child with ASC and EDs, at the expense of time to socialise, their career, and family relationships, resulting in isolation and their lives becoming centred around their caring role. One parent directly linked these difficulties to a lack of carer-orientated support from services:
“Parents do feel very alone and I do blame a little bit some of the hospitals and the staff… I think there needs to be more inclusion of parents” (Participant 2).
Therefore, caring for someone with co-occurring ASC and ED was described as extremely challenging by carers in this study, and was associated with significant personal sacrifice. There was a strong feeling throughout the interviews of hopelessness that appeared to be closely related to previous negative experiences accessing ineffective or un-adapted treatments, and their child’s lack of progress in recovery and continuing ED. One carer had the following response when asked “what would make your journey easier?” by the interviewer:
“To see progress. As a carer, you look at it and it’s frustrating, it dominates your life. You don’t really have a life – you feel like you’re sacrificing everything. And to be positive about that, you’ve got to see light at the end of the tunnel.” (Participant 1).
Theme 4: Supporting the supporters
Carers made a number of recommendations for changes which they felt would help support them in their role as carer. These broadly fell into two categories: improved treatment for their loved ones, which would help relieve the burden of care, and direct support and interventions designed to help the carers themselves. Improved treatments for their loved ones primarily focused around adapting ED treatments for needs associated with ASC, including training in ASC for ED clinicians, more personalised approaches and accommodating sensory needs in meal plans, including help for carers with meal support in their homes and , a 24/7 helpline for ASC/ED carers. There was a perception that people with ASC may benefit from more intensive care, including longer periods in treatment and the provision of day or inpatient services. In particular, there was a recognition by carers of adult children that some people with ASC require long term care, and a desire for additional support with the lifetime needs associated with this condition. For example, one carer described how their adult son remained dependent on them, and how they would benefit from support around helping him become more independent. Again, this was perceived as benefiting both the child and the carer:
“The last year has been really hard and he’s so regressed, just relies on me constantly. I wanted for him his own living space, but I want it also for me. It puts a strain on the relationship.” (Participant 7).
Carers also felt that they could benefit from support for themselves from services. In particular, there was an interest from carers in the provision of peer support groups, and support from others with lived experience of caring for someone either with an ED only, or both ASC and an ED. One carer described how she set up her own group in the absence of appropriate support, and felt that ED services could have done more to help with this. In response to the question “what would improvement look like”, she stated:
“Much, much more collaboration with people with lived experience. Because I’m that sort of person I felt like I needed to do something, I set up a parent/carer support group. Ideally it wouldn’t have been run by me at that point, because [child’s name] was even more unwell than she is now. But there wasn’t anything locally, so I felt with my skills and resources that was something I could set up, which I did. It didn’t get a very good take-up, but the eating disorder community team didn’t promote it.” (Participant 6).
Other support options suggested by carers including psychoeducation around co-occurring ASC and EDs, and services signposting additional sources of help. They also described the importance of feeling included in the treatment process, including more communication from clinicians. One carer felt that he would have benefited from clinicians acknowledging the difficulties associated with this comorbidity early in the process:
“I think local services could give a very honest picture and say “look, this is going to be really hard. This is going to stretch you and be really hard because of the nature of what it is, and particularly with autism, this is going to be challenging”… for me it would have been a help if someone said: “this is what you’re likely to experience”. (Participant 5).
Theme 5: Coronavirus
Nearly all of the carers who were interviewed mentioned the impact of the coronavirus pandemic on their lives and the people they were caring for. Negative impacts included their loved ones’ treatments being suspended, disrupted or moved online, heightening carer responsibilities in helping with their child’s treatment and recovery. Carers also reported that it was particularly difficult to obtain preferred foods and brands in shops due to stock shortages, and that both they and their child were experiencing worsening social isolation. For one carer, lockdown was the most difficult period she had experienced in caring for her child. The pressures of lockdown made it even harder for her to balance her caring role with her other responsibilities:
“So far these last few weeks have been the hardest, because of the pressure of - lockdown happening at the same time has made it more difficult, with the children and balancing things [managing child with ASC and ED’s hospital admission]”. (Participant 8).
There was a suggestion that people with ASC and EDs may have particular difficulties around lockdown. For example, one parent described how their son struggled to be flexible around certain foods not being available in supermarkets due to his rigid thinking style: “he is unable to process that because it is not in his logic” (Participant 2).
A number of carers noted that, in the context of previous restrictions on their lives due to their caring role, their experience of lockdown was not significantly different compared to their every day lives:
Carers coped by taking things ‘day by day; “we have had really bad days and we have had better days.’”. (participant 2)
Being used to leading restricted lives meant that some carers felt that they had built up resilience from their caregiving experiences.